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Meetings at CGM during 2003

Date
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Topics/Activities
2003‑01‑03
2
In the midst of a serious winter storm, Sam and Jeremy made the best of CGM’s lowest turnout ever by discussing the pains of moving, the upcoming Adam & Steve event, and local organizations worthy of making contributions.
2003‑01‑10
22
No record exists for this meeting, but e-mail traffic that night suggest that this month was heavy on the Adam & Steve Gay Union Ceremony. Likely the meeting was devoted to that.
2003‑01‑17
26
Tonight we went around the room and invited each attendee to share with the group his vocation and avocations in life, while the rest of the room listened and learned. It was an excellent getting-to-know-you evening that portrayed how incredibly diverse the members of this group are.
2003‑01‑24
35
A dual-topic evening. First, we covered the process of foreskin restoration and glimpsed into the psyche of those that pursue this. Second, a member noted that in a trip to Southern California, he noticed that some very risky sexual behaviors are becoming popular. Although members could understand how a generation that didn’t live through the HIV-panic years would behave like this, many had trouble understanding those who deliberately engage in risky behaviors (bug chasers). Our resident HIV expert Jim filled us in.
2003‑01‑31
34
The evolving perception of society on those who enjoy working with and mentoring children. This was a follow-up to our discussion about the priest scandal in the Catholic Church. This time, though, we covered these questions: Are we inhibited from working with children because of the risk of being labelled a pedophile? Are children the victims of a society that is afraid to touch them? A good discussion, particularly from the parents in the group.
2003‑02‑07
22
Tonight the group was almost perfectly split between the regular meeting and the 3-hour final dress rehearsal for the Adam & Steve event. President Mike led the main group in a discussion of commitment.
2003‑02‑14
27
Tonight we deconstructed the successful Adam and Steve event, discussing what made the event work and what would need to be done to expand the event to accommodate 200 people next year. One big question is: what will that event be? Clearly, a big draw for this year was the novelty factor; this would be lost if we continued to do commitment ceremonies each year. However, it did appear that the interactive nature of the event was a big plus, so we brainstormed on that: Gay “All in the Family”, Gone with the Wind, La Cage Aux Folles, a Gay Murder Mystery, and a Jerry Springer-type talk show. The group agreed that although the Adam & Steve Commitment Ceremony could not be done again any time soon, Fiona, Delores, Sylvia, Adam, Steve, and the rest of this cast will continue to appear year after year!
2003‑02‑21
21
Tonight the group took last week’s discussion a bit further, examining how the group has come from the little group of 4 that met above Foodee’s to one that was able to sell out its first public event. Some members misunderstood the topic initially, thinking that we were looking to push the evolutionary envelope. Their cries of “don’t fix what ain’t broke” were curious in light of the scope of this group’s evolution. Many did agree that the group will continue to evolve on its own, very nicely, thank you.
2003‑02‑28
31
Tonight the group presented Lee Johansen, director of the MVAP, with an oversized check for the Adam & Steve proceeds ($2700). Lee also surprised the group by presenting it with a plaque in appreciation of CGM’s efforts. After the photo session, we watched the video taken during the event itself while dining on sandwiches and soda.
2003‑03‑07
25
Movie night: The Laramie Project.
2003‑03‑14
26
Tonight we held a follow-up discussion on The Laramie Project. We observed that homophobia still runs rampant in the 21st Century. On the other hand, it’s much less here in the U.S. than it is elsewhere in the world.
2003‑03‑21
22
Mini-groups. Tonight, all groups were assigned the topic of fantasies. Afterward, we reconvened in a big circle and shared what we had discussed.
2003‑03‑28
28
Fantasy follow-up from the week before. Then, how do you meet people via the Internet? Some of us have done this, and shared tips. We also discussed the role of music and dance (and bars!) in the gay culture.
2003‑04‑04
10
How many students in your high school class were gay? Are Kinsey’s numbers right? Somehow we went off the rails and ended the meeting comparing the Episcopal, Catholic, and Unitarian faiths.
2003‑04‑11
28
Friendships and the crucial role good friends can play in becoming a stable, happy gay man.
2003‑04‑18
25
All about dating. How do you distinguish tricks, friends, sex-buddies, and dates? Does “speed dating” work? How do you break up with someone? How do you handle it when it happens to you?
2003‑04‑25
36
How do you deal with your partner’s kids? Tips were plentiful from those who have “been there.”
2003‑05‑02
24
Movie night: Sordid Lives.
2003‑05‑09
27
Coping with loss. One member lost his father, and NH lost the Old Man of the Mountain this week. We couldn’t end on a sad note, though, so we “caught up with Stu.”
2003‑05‑16
19
How to handle a guilt trip. How to dish one out. Also, we shared Mother’s Day remembrances, and told coming out stories to some new attendees who asked.
2003‑05‑23
35
The Ex boyfriend: How to reconnect, how to retain friendship, and how to go beyond friendship without it getting complicated. Members shared their personal stories about their exes. Also, someone read from a report stating that 54% of NH residents polled approve of gay marriage.
2003‑05‑30
22
Queendom: It’s not about being effeminate. It’s about being in control!
2003‑06‑06
25
A member’s father passed away this week...personal support for him and a reflection on our fathers.
2003‑06‑13
20
Is it safe to be in politics? We noted that the Supreme Court narrowly favored us in the decision to strike down the Texas sodomy law. We also noted that Massachussetts looked good with the recent decision to marry same-sex couples. Finally, we observed with some amusement that the right-wing groups are imploding over Bush.
2003‑06‑20
32
A plethora of mini-topics: (1) Naked mowing. (2) Reaction to the Weekly World News report that Saddam Hussein and Osama Bin Laden are lovers: we decided that WWN readers are imbeciles and thus not a threat; we should be worried about specifically anti-gay publications instead. (3) Why are some gay men opposed to corporate sponsorship of a “gay day” or advertising that specifically targets a gay audience? Kate Clinton says that companies are exploiting gays for their money. Our consensus: Of course they are, they’re businesses. Enjoy the free exposure.
2003‑07‑25
30
The demise of Will and Grace and the promising replacements: Queer Eye for the Straight Guy and Boy Meets Boy. We agreed: One of these is good for us, one is bad. We also discussed a member’s question via sharing of personal experience: How do we know that we’ve been discriminated against?
2003‑08‑01
14
Movie night: Far From Heaven.
2003‑08‑08
26
The election of Gene Robinson to head the Episcopal Church. We observed that this just adds to an already incredibly gay summer: 2 new TV shows, 2 big court decisions, marriage, and amendments.
2003‑08‑15
24
Kissing...an essential part of the gay experience, or too intimate a thing for men? What are the differences between casual and intimate kisses? Do kisses have different meanings across cultural boundaries?
2003‑08‑22
16
Mini-groups.
2003‑08‑29
30
Blindness and seeing-eye dogs. One regular attendee is slowly losing all of his sight and shared his experience with us.
2003‑09‑05
29
We opened by mostly agreeing that although Bravo’s Boy Meets Boy shed a very bad spotlight on us, we couldn’t take our eyes off the set. Also, a member asked for advice on how to support a friend who is an alcoholic.
2003‑09‑12
27
Happiness: Does money make you happy? Not according to a NY Times article. Some members shared what makes them happy, which led us into a discussion on what it takes to be a mentor to a kid as a facilitator of an Outright group. Also: Couples who work together; stressful or not?
2003‑09‑19
29
“Mothers Know.” Most attendees shared that their moms were not surprised when they came out. Also, we discussed the phrase “That’s gay.” We observed that kids use this to express that something is bad, not that it is homosexual. Also, we discusses a report about a crackdown on cruising, resulting in parks closing and names published in the paper.
2003‑09‑26
27
Is CGM heading away from being a support group to be more social? Why do some members come back, while others depart for good? To lighten the mood, someone asked everyone to tell us “The three words he hates to hear.” Our favorites: “This is boring.” “Let’s live together.”
2003‑10‑03
29
Guest facilitator Steve read “The Sissy Duckling” to the group. Afterward, we discussed how we felt about gay material being taught in the schools.
2003‑10‑10
Movie night: Hedwig and the Angry Inch.
2003‑10‑17
31
Guest facilitator Sam taught us how to measure our penises tonight. He also reported on how the differ between cultures. Discussion flowed rather easily.
2003‑10‑24
33
Guest speaker Chrissy Gephardt, lesbian daughter of presidential hopeful Dick Gephardt, told us of her personal story, how she handled his DOMA vote, how he handled her coming out, and of course, why we should vote for him.
2003‑10‑31
24
Halloween games: Penis-shaped pinata and “Pin the Macho on the Man.”
2003‑11‑07
19
With the annual meeting a month away, the current board discussed the duties of their position and accomplishments over the past year.
2003‑11‑14
27
Game night with Steve and Dave.
2003‑11‑21
31
Guest speaker Lisa Brodeur gave us a Partylite candle demonstration and took our orders. She expertly molded her presentation to the campy gay audience and sold a lot of product.
2003‑11‑28
35
After-Thanksgiving potluck at Steve and Dave’s house.
2003‑12‑05
33
Annual Meeting and Election, led by president David T.
2003‑12‑12
20
Tonight’s topic began with a brief mention of Al Gore’s endorsement of Howard Dean this week. After a brief discussion of the candidates, we went directly to the gay marriage topic. The discussion included the good and bad parts of marriage: We get all of those lovely rights, but we now have to be married to get them (domestic partnership benefits will likely go away). Our relationships will receive the highest level of validation, but they can only end in death or divorce.
2003‑12‑19
43
Yankee Gift Swap and Christmas party.
2003‑12‑26
20
Guest facilitator Rob led the group in a discussion about Christmas memories past and New Year’s resolutions ahead.

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